When Healing Begins: Finding Your Way Back to Yourself

There’s a moment I see often in therapy that quiet pause when someone says, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

It’s a feeling that can come after burnout, trauma, parenting, ADHD diagnosis, or simply years of holding everything together. Somewhere along the way, you lose touch with yourself. You stop hearing your own needs because you’ve been tuned into everyone else’s.

I understand that feeling deeply, both as a counsellor and as a human being.

The Truth About Healing

Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s not something you tick off a list or achieve through sheer willpower.

In my work at ALN Counselling & Wellbeing, I offer trauma-informed counselling it’s more like learning to listen again to your body, to your emotions, to the parts of yourself that got quiet when life got too loud.

In my work at ALN Counselling & Wellbeing, I offer a calm, compassionate space for that kind of listening. My approach is trauma-informed and shaped by my understanding of anxiety and ADHD. I help people explore what’s underneath their coping patterns, so they can begin to move toward safety, self-trust, and authenticity.

“You Don’t Have to Have It All Together”

So many of us carry the belief that we need to be fixed before we can start therapy that we need to find the right words or be in the “right place.”But the truth is, you don’t need to come prepared. You just need to come as you are.

Sometimes the most powerful work happens when you allow yourself to be seen in the mess of all the uncertainty, because that’s where healing begins in the honesty of what’s real, not the performance of being okay.

The Role of Awareness

Whether I’m working with trauma, anxiety, or ADHD, my focus is always on understanding not pathologizing. Awareness is powerful. When you begin to understand why you respond the way you do the freeze, the shutdown, the overwhelm it creates space for change. It turns shame into self-compassion.

From there, you can start to build tools that actually fit you ones that honour your nervous system, your energy, and your life.

Finding a Way Forward

Therapy isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you were before you learned to hide parts of yourself.

If you’re feeling stuck, lost, or simply curious about what’s next, you don’t have to face it alone. Together, we can begin to make sense of what’s been happening and gently open the door to something new.

You deserve to feel whole. You deserve to feel heard.

Get in touch to learn more about how I can support you through counselling or wellbeing coaching.